How to text a girl for the first time and create attraction? Hi, this is Melanie with beyond ages with some great new tips on how to text a girl for the first time and create attraction. Even if you’re not a beginner, there’s always something to improve on and it’s helpful to see things from a different perspective. Texting is something you’ll likely use with any girl that you meet. So it’s in your best interest to do it right, especially when it comes to the all-important first text. We’re going to assume that you already have the number of a woman that you’re interested in and that you’re looking to get started on the right foot. So, to start anything, there are two things you need to remember before even picking up the phone to send that first text. Keeping these in mind to start will help boost your confidence and put you on the right path.
Number one she’s already a little interested. First, you must recognize that if you have her number to begin with she’s already a little interested. While there’s a slim chance she may have given it to you out of politeness, in most cases, a woman will only give you her number if she’s at least mildly interested. Consider it a win, even if there’s still work to do it’s much easier to engage a woman who’s already interested than it is to try and convince a woman who isn’t sold on you after making your first impression. Assume there’s some attraction in place to begin with, and you have an easier time moving forward.
Number two shed the anxiety. Texting a woman for the first time often induces some anxiety. It’s normal to feel a bit nervous, especially if she’s an attractive woman. It means that you’re not settling for less than you deserves and, if you’re nervous to send that first text or endlessly contemplating what you should send take a deep breath, use some mindful meditation practices that focus around breathing to help you shut that anxiety or at least calm down.
We’ll try one now, focus on your breathing here and take slow, consistent, breaths, no pausing, slowing or speeding up. Are you ready, breathe in for a count of four: one, two, three, four. Breathe out for a count of six: one, two, three, four, five, six. Breathe in for a count of eight: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight and breathe out for a count of six: one, two, three, four, five, six. Good, focus on your breath and how it feels going in and how it feels coming out. The coolness as it enters your nose, how your chest lowers as you exhale. Focus on getting even, consistent, breaths each time for a minute or two. This will help take you out of your head and focus on the present. Now that you’re in the right mindset you can get down to business.
Here’s where you pick up the phone and craft a good first text to create attraction. Number three start where you left off. A great way to start texting is to immediately pick up where your last conversation ended. You likely initially met on an online dating site or out around town. You probably didn’t get her number simply by walking up to her and asking for it. A conversation prior that conversation got you in the door to get the digits in the first place, so build on that. Use it as a reminder of why she gave you her number to begin with.
Number four: don’t make blatant mistakes. The most important thing to know about texting a girl for the first time is to avoid blatant mistakes. The first message you should send a woman should be very casual, direct and to-the-point. Sending a long-winded message or pushing a conversation from the get-go is incredibly overwhelming in most cases and would likely harm your chances with her. You can say things like hey Melanie, it’s Mike.
Number five; make the first text easy to reply to. Now that you know the main mistakes to avoid you can focus on sending the crucial first text. Moreover, it’s imperative that you don’t overthink it. Any attempt to embellish your first message might be seen as an overeager attempt, which would possibly turn her off. Regarding your first message, less is more, keep it simple and give her something to work off of.
A couple examples of this would be: hey Emily, It’s John. It was nice to meet you yesterday. hey Emily guess who? As you can see the context behind how you got her number, will change the tone of your first message. The last example implies that you just got her number. This is a good message to send a few minutes after getting a woman’s number through online dating she may even play along if there was a good-humoured vibe in your initial conversation. With the other messages, you’re essentially fishing for that first reply, because you can begin a Conversation once she’s a little bit more invested.
If you attempt to kick start a conversation with her instantly with your first message, you’d be making the common mistake that we mentioned before.
Number 6; Create some magnetic attraction. Creating attraction through text message is a process and it begins with the first text when you start the conversation on a high note. You’re putting yourself in a great position to escalate from there keep the interaction playful tease her whenever you can get her talking about herself And pay attention when she asks you questions, because it’s a strong indicator of interest. Soon enough you’ll be in a good position to ask her out.
So there you have it now, you can text a woman like a pro make sure you leave a comment below and subscribe for more great tips and pointers.