Category: Attractiing women

How To Ask a Girl Out With Success

How To Ask a GirlAsking out a girl that you like can be terrifying to most guys. There are good ways and bad ways of doing it. I get a lot of emails from guys asking me: “How do you ask a girl out?” They want to know the specifics of what to do. In this article, we are going to be going over how to ask a girl out properly.
But before I do that I want to share with you what you should NOT do when asking out a girl that you like.

1. Don’t become too invested in asking out any one particular woman.

If you are a single guy it is acceptable to be talking to and flirting with multiple women. The most common thing I see with guys is that they spend months or even years fixating on that one special girl. Don’t do this. It may end up ruining your chances with her. If you are too emotionally invested in the whole situation when asking her out she will notice. Girls are well attuned to people’s feelings. She will see that you are very invested in this and it will put a lot of pressure on her. Girls don’t like pressure. They like to have a good time and things should be fun and flirtatious. You should give off the impression that you can take it or leave it.

2. Don’t be shy.

If you’re always shy around the girl that you like she will get the impression that you are always like this. And why wouldn’t she? She may not know you that well. Show her that you are fun to be around and if she goes on a date with you it will be fun and low pressure. Girls love a guy who is comfortable in his own skin and who likes to have fun. It is very attractive to them.

3. Don’t ask a girl out to a dinner and a movie.

This is one the other most common mistakes I see guys make. It’s a terrible idea from a lot of angles. For one, in a movie every attempt at physical escalation you make is magnified. You want physical escalation to be smooth and this is impossible when you are sitting next to her in a movie theater. If you want to know why physical escalation is important read my other articles but for now it has to do with staying out of the dreaded ‘friend zone’. I will be writing more about this. Another reason why this type of date is a bad idea is that it is very un-original and stereotypical. It is possibly the most common type of date idea out there. It puts you in the category of 20 other guys who have taken her on this kind of date, tried to get in her pants and failed. You don’t want to be in that category and this date idea puts you exactly in it.

4. Don’t ask a girl out to ‘do something, sometime’.

This is another bad idea. “Let’s do something sometime” is not very specific. It’s like some vague possibility sometime in the future. Instead, you want to be specific like ‘we will meet at this place and do this’. Girls can sometimes be very busy, especially hot girls. They get asked to social events all the time and they have very little spare time to ‘do something sometime.’ You must plan where you would like to take her and be specific when asking her out on a date.

5. Don’t wait till it’s too late.

Many guys wait for the perfect moment to ask a woman out. The problem with this is that there will probably never be a perfect moment and the next thing you know she is dating another guy. Women have a lot of options and they don’t wait around. If she is single and in dating or ‘meeting people’ mode you must pull the trigger early. Also if you and a girl have been flirting for a while or have known each other for some time then she may even be waiting for you to make a move. You may not realize it but if you fail to make that move she will actually loose attraction towards you. You must watch for signs that she is into you and take action or she will think you have no balls. It is better to ask her out too early and get rejected than ask too late. To learn more about the window of opportunity and why it is crucial watch this video.
Now that we have covered the things to avoid I will explain what you should do.

1. You must establish attraction first.

Have you ever heard the term ‘nice guys finish last’? There is some truth here. You may be the nicest guy but if she feels no attraction towards you, you will not get very far. In fact, you may even end up in the dreaded friend zone. What you must do is establish some attraction and watch for signs that she is at least a little into you. Not long ago I wrote a lengthily answer on Yahoo Answers that answers the question “How do you know if a girl likes you?“. I plan on writing other articles that teach guys specifically what to do to build attraction. For now you could tease her a little like she is your little sister. Don’t go overboard but you could basically treat her like she is being a brat. This works especially well on hot girls. The thing to remember is that attraction should come before rapport building. If a girl feels at least some attraction towards you she will tend to be a lot more compliant when it comes to asking her out. You should also realize that women make decisions based on emotions rather than logic. You may be a great guy for her but she must feel this on an emotional level. This is the role of building attraction.

2. Tell her about something you’re doing and invite her along.

This is a great idea for girls that you are already talking to or have known for a short time. You want to have something that you are already going to or doing and then ask her if she would like to come with you almost as an afterthought. The magic of this little technique is that if she turns you down it really does not matter because you were going to do this anyway. It’s not as if you made an elaborate date plan and she just told you to shove it. So in her eyes you actually don’t lose much value. It can be a little easier for you to ask the girl out this way because it’s casual and low pressure.

3. Ask her out on a high note.

This is an important one. A lot of guys ask a girl out randomly in a conversation or even worse when the conversation is dying out. It comes off a little weird. The best time to ask her out is when you are both having a good time. You should gauge her interest in you and pull the trigger on a high point. If she is talking a lot (investing into the conversation) or looking at you like she wants to rape you then these are positive signs. Girls can turn down a lot of guys for dates not because they don’t like them but because they’re asking them out on a date out of the blue. So be smooth and make sure you do it on a high note.
How to attract women easily

4. Get tickets to something interesting that you would both enjoy.

You could get 2 tickets to a comedy festival or something that you know she may enjoy. You could pretend that your friend bailed on you and you are looking for someone that you could take. Casually ask is she wants to come along. This takes a lot of the pressure off. It’s not as if you thought about specifically taking her on a romantic date. If she knew this to be true she may feel a little pressured or trapped, especially if she doesn’t know you very well yet or hasn’t developed any attraction for you.

5. Plan the date before asking her out.

If you know what you will be doing this will take some of the pressure off you. If you have a set plan it will eliminate some of the unknown. Guys get nervous because they don’t have a set plan of action. Also, a lot of guys make the mistake of asking the girl what she wants to do. Trust me, you don’t want to do this. Girls hate having to make decisions. They just want to have fun and be taken along for the ride. This is exactly what you should be doing. Planning something fun and taking the girl along with you for the ride. She will be happy that you did this. Here are some quick date ideas:
meet her at a chill lounge or bar near your home for a drink
jazz bar
take her to the beach
take her to some interesting place that you have been to before where you can lead her around and show her cool things
cooking class
live entertainment such as a band
take her out for a game of mini-golf
a park where you talk and preferably food
Remember that you want to keep it casual and fun. Formal dates put too much pressure on the girl and don’t get you laid. Formal dates put you into the category of the guy that will wait 5 dates before you sleep with her.
Also you should aim to keep it simple. The idea is for you to be able to talk and where there could be some other interesting things like artwork or music. You want to avoid a date where you are going to a party with her and 5 of her friends.
When asking her out, suggest a time and day. If she says she is busy ask her specifically when she is free. You want her to be able to commit to this time. One thing to avoid is to keep suggesting different times if she is saying no to the ones you suggest. This is not a good idea because it builds what’s known as ‘negative compliance’. This is where the girl is getting used to having to say no to you.
How to ask a girl out

6. Be prepared for rejection.

If she turns you down don’t make it a big deal. You don’t really know what’s happening in her life. She may have someone that she is seeing, even casually or she may have just got out of a relationship. The fact is that it’s probably not you and there may be other things going on in her life. In the case that she says no, just change the topic of conversation and talk for a couple more minutes before leaving. You don’t want to make it seem like you were talking to her only to ask her out. Sometimes a ‘no’ could simply mean ‘not yet’. You should give her some space, talk to her some more and ask her out again another time. Remember, women like persistence.

7. Don’t get too excited if she does say yes.

Just be cool about it. You don’t want to seem like this was the first time that a girl has said yes to you. You want to make it seem like this is normal and happens to you all the time. Continue the conversation a little longer after she says yes.

Tips On How To Attract Women

How to attract women tipsI am sure you have met guys who weren’t all that in terms of good looks but who, nevertheless, manage to attract women in greater number than you thought possible. On the other hand, there are very physically attractive men who simply can’t get a woman to talk to them let alone to like them. Most of us resort to the misplaced mentality that these ‘ladies men’ are naturally attractive to women and that the rest of us simply don’t have what it takes to attract beautiful women.

If you are the kind of man who thinks that they do not have the necessary skills to attract women, have no fear; you are not alone. The truth of the matter is that most guys are not that good when it comes to attracting women. What’s more, its really not about being a good looking guy. It is about your personality, self belief and hard work. In fact, even the ‘Ladies men’ who seem to have it easy also put lots of time and effort into the process of attracting women. It is all about understanding the psychology of women; knowing what women want, what gets their heads turning. If you are a guy who has been having difficulty attracting women, these three tips are here to make it easier for you to attract and seduce women like a natural born pick up artist.

1. The Power of Charm

how to attract women naturallyTo be charming simply means to possess the ability to delight, please or enchant someone. The best thing is that everyone has the ability to charm. What makes the difference is the level to which you have awakened and exploited your ability to charm. Simply put, for you to attract a woman, you must be attractive as well; there are no two ways about it. Being charming is not a complicated thing either. Its all about being funny, being a gentleman (even bad boys have to be gentlemen at one point or another), being positive, being confident and being yourself without really caring what some other person thinks.

2. Brace yourself for Rejection

You have heard it said that in order to avoid disappointment, one should not set their hopes too high. Well, the same pretty much applies to guys looking to attract women. You must be ready to accept the fact that rejection is one of the possible outcomes of approaching women. That’s not enough though, you should also have the courage not to let that rejection get to your head. The point is, there are simply too many beautiful women out there for you to wallow over one girl. Once you accept that rejection is a possibility, the easier it will be for you to attract women. This is primarily because when you get rejected by one woman, instead of wasting your time brooding over it, you just move on to the next available girl that you find attractive.

3. Spend more time with more women

The funny thing about most men and especially those who complain about not being able to attract the women that they want is that they often expect to register success on the first attempt. This is a completely misplaced mentality to have; even Rome itself was never built in a day. The sad truth is that for some, finding the right woman only takes one attempt while for others it would take numerous attempts. The more women you approach and the more women you interact with, the easier it will be for you to find the woman that matches your needs and preferences and the better your chances of attracting her. After all, spending lots of time with beautiful women is proof enough that you can get a beautiful woman to fall for you. It is all a matter of increasing your odds.

How To Pick Up Girls | Pick Up Artist Tips

How to pick up girlsMost guys spend their life missing opportunities to pick up the kind of girls that they would like to spend time with on account of the fact that they lack the necessary skills of a pick up artist and don’t know how to pick up girls naturally. Similarly, there are a great many guys who fail to pick up girls that they will like to be with due to lack of confidence. They make excuses not to approach girls that they will like to meet and therefore continue to miss opportunities to pick up beautiful women on a regular basis.

Are you a guy who has no confidence? Do you miss opportunities to attract girls you are interested in because you don’t have the confidence or the know how to pick up girls? Do you assume that a girl will find you ugly or that she is going to be rude to you if you approach her? True, it can be tricky to convince a girl that you don’t know to like you on first approach. But not if you know the proper way to pick up girls. There are a few things that any man can learn about how to pick girls you like that will make it easy for him to attract girls on first approach. There are guys who know the best way to pick up girls. To these guys the question of how to attract girls is something that they never ask themselves because they have mastered it. Any man can be in that situation, including you. All you have to do is to discover how to attract girls, the best way to pick up girls, then learn and master the techniques. This article is designed to help you learn how to pick up girls!

What’s the best way pick up girls?

Here is a video that hits the spot when it comes what to do the minute you see a girl that you will like to meet:

You may wonder if it is easy to learn how to pick up girls? If you want to study how to become a pick up artist or at least acquire the skills of a pick up artist, the answer is a huge yes! If you have never tried to pick up girls before, don’t worry there are enough information on this blog for a complete newbie to get good at attracting girls. There are many ways you can pick up girls. It doesn’t matter if you are a complete novice at approaching girls or you you’ve tried but still don’t know how to attract girls that appeal to you. Anyone can learn how to pick up girls if you acquire the proper pick up artist techniques that goes with your personality. There are so many easy ways to attract girls it is unbelievable.

A lot of guys are of the opinions that women can only be found at bars and clubs. Forget that! This is not true at all. Women can be found in all kinds of places. Never get trapped into assuming that girls can only be picked up from bars, clubs and parties. The girl you desire can be found anywhere including: bookstores, school or college classes, shopping centres, supermarkets and so on. All you need to do is to always be ready to grab opportunities to pick up girls whenever they become available.

How to pick up girls – The initial encounter

The first step in how to pick up girls is the initial encounter or the approach as it is known by regular pick up artists. This is very important because the girl you are trying to pick up don’t know you yet and as such has nothing to lose by ignoring you if your approach turns out to be a lame duck. There are many ways to do this and you can find excellent examples in any one of the pick up artist books that I recommend as we go along in this post. For the purposes of this article, I am going to employ the “plant and stare” technique which is very effective in any situation where you are stationary.

What some pick up artists call the ‘plant’ and ‘stare’ technique can be a good way to start the initial approach. However, be careful not to look like a creep or a stalker with this one. You do not want to scare the girl away from you. For that reason make sure that you have a friendly smile on you face while doing this one. The idea is to get the girl to notice you and get curious about you. Once you know that the girl has seen you, and you see her looking back at you, wink at her or give her thumbs up or do what ever you need to do to illicit a positive reaction from her such as a smile back or thumbs up.

How to pick up girls – the opener.

As soon as you get a positive reaction, approach the girl and open. In pick up and seduction, to open means to start a conversation. And you can do that by just saying hi or hello in a lively and up beat fashion. You can also use something as direct as “I just saw you standing here and I just had to come and say hello”. If she replies back, start talking. You can start conversation with a girl in any number of ways including commenting about the place you are in, introducing your self, and even a mild compliment.

Watch this video and you will see some good examples of how to pick up girls using an opener:

How to pick up girls – Make her curious about you.

After the opener the next step is to get the conversation rolling in such a way that the girl becomes curious about you and what you have to say. You have to make sure that the topic of conversation is not boring. Stay clear of dynamite subjects like religion, politics and race. It sometimes helps to begin with a topic that has nothing to do with either of you. It doesn’t have to be difficult. Good examples of things to kick off an encounter with a girl you just met are storey telling, picking up something or even people around you and commenting on them. A good pick up artist tip is to carry ready made stories with you at all times that you think will make a girl that you are interested in attracted to you.

If you try this approach when you talk to a girl you like, there is every chance that you will have a fun and a decent conversation. If you want to get more detailed information on how to attract a girl you just met, check out makewomenwantyou by Jason Capital. It is a well written pick up artist book with lots of great information on how to pick up girls that you are attracted to.

In the meantime, here is a slightly advanced video on how make any conversation exiting enough for a girl to stay and hear you out:

How to pick up girls – Be creative

Uniqueness is a great thing to have if you want to master how to pick up girls. If you want to talk to a stunning looking woman, it is highly likely that other guys have already told her how beautiful she is – several times today. Forget the idea of complimenting her for her looks. Whilst she may enjoy it, it won’t necessarily make her interested in you. Instead, compliment her on what she is wearing. Perhaps, on her shoes, purse or clothing. Girls spend a lot of their spare time shopping and making themselves look more attractive. If you compliment a girl on those things that she has invested a lot of time and energy in, she is more likely to appreciate it more than complimenting her on something that she has not spent a minute to cultivate. This will make your conversation with her unique. Always remember that being unique is one of the best ways to pick up girls.

How to pick up girls – Don’t be an interrogator

If you ask the average person what’s the best way to pick up girls, they will likely tell you to be yourself. While this is true to a certain extent, it does not mean that you should be your worst self. It means to be your best self which in turn means to develop the best personality that will allow you to attract girls by being interesting and fun. For that reason, stay away from interview style questions. They are boring and not fun for the girls to answer. Instead, be observant, if the girl that you are trying to pick up is a good talker, then relax, listen to what she has to say and make constructive comments. Take a look at the Scrambler for some great examples of how to talk to a girl you just met. You can check out The Scrambler here!

How to pick up girls – Close as soon as possible.

Notice that the first parts of this article on how to pick up girls does not have any long stories to it. That is because effective pick up does not need long and protracted conversation when you meet a girl for the first time. Why? Because the longer you hang around, the more likely you are to say something that the girl will not like and in the process ruin a perfect pick up. This is more so for those who are not yet developed in the art of attracting girls. So, unless you are a seasoned pick up artist, the best advice is to run a short game, get the girl’s information (phone number, email address) then leave. You can then arrange for a pre planned time with a well prepared game plan that will lead you to something fruitful. You can even run a text game first to solidify the encounter before you meet up with the girl again. A good way to do this is after talking for a few minutes, say something like “I need to find my friends but you seem like a cool person…I’d like to see you again. Give me your phone number / email address so that I can call you later and we can continue this conversation”. Most times, if the girl is single and she likes you she will give you the requested information.

Attracting girls is not nuclear physics and is easy to master. All that needs to be done is to get hold of the right information, study and practice what it contains until you become good at it. There are several good materials out there in the open. One that I particularly like and that can be useful for both newbie and advanced guys looking to learn more about how to pick up girls is Language of Lust.

You can check it out here!

How To Attract Women Tips

How to attract women tipsFrom the beginning of time men of all ages have been trying to figure out how to attract women. Even though it is not the most difficult thing in the world to learn most men will never understand how to attract women. This is the main reason why the few guys that do know how to attract women find it easy to get women. In this post we are going to address two of the most important elements in attracting women:

Important element number one in attracting women is body language.

Here is a post that outlines why it is important to have good body language and what to do in order to acquire the right body language that will help you attract women easily:

Body Language to Attract Women – Jeez!

How facial expressions, eye contact, body movements and various other factors in a Mans Body Language can attract Women. How women get attracted to particular males.

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The next essential element in attracting a woman is flirting.

The point of flirting with a woman is not just to get her attracted to you but also to let her know without spelling it out that you are attracted to her. It is like saying “I like you” without saying it directly. Here is Carlos Xuma with a video on how to flirt with a woman and how to attract women through flirting:

How To Flirt With Women

“There’s a secret for how to flirt with women that most guys don’t know about – and I’m going to reveal it here. You could call it a hidden ingredient for flirting with …”

That video seems to suggest that the best ways to flirt with a woman are;

  1. Compliments are OK but not on her looks or physical appearance
  2. Don’t just rely on words alone when flirting. The right Body language (as in the post above) is essential when flirting with a woman.
  3. Always be genuine and sincere. In other words do not hide your sexual interest in a woman.

To the above three points I might add, learn how to tease women. Teasing is a very good way to flirt with women if done correctly because it communicates to a woman that you are someone who knows how to have fun, someone who does not take himself too seriously all the time. Check out this page for some cool tips on how to tease and flirt with a woman you like.


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